It could be your sister, your friend, your daughter, your mother.. It could be you. Stop violence against women NOW!
I personally
do not condone violence especially on women. Well who does?
Unless you are numb and under high doses of anesthesia. Or you swear
there should not be any female human being alive because they are extremely
complicated and that that the world is only for the male species. Violence
needs a cause if you are in a war. People do it because other people do it? But
why? Because they feel superior? Crime is
in their head and they use their power over helpless women. Why do these things
happen? Do we just let them happen or are we victims of men’s stale fantasy
that life is only about them being stronger. That we are just forced to succumb
out of fear or out of love. Men are men. Because we are different from them we are
inferior? So we just have to accept that? It’s understandable that their
actions are just propelled by their hormones because again they are men? That does not mean that they can do whatever
they want. Discriminate, assault, beat, rape, and far worse murder. This can
stop if we will not let them in the first place. Billion women worldwide are affected
by these inhumane acts. But lets us also consider the fact that sometimes women
are abused because they allow themselves to be. We have to understand why and
know the probable causes of abuse against women and girls. For women to stop
living in fear and change how you will be treated in your
lifetime.
It is not
new to hear or see news on the radio and television that most victims of abuse and
killings are women and girls. And we are not just talking about verbal abuse. We mean physical and sexual abuse in shocking
incidents of violence against women by their husband or boyfriend. No one has
the right to hurt anybody even if you had the same painful experience during
your childhood. Women and girls, it’s not an excuse. We would often say that
our partners behave this way because they feel angry and have unresolved issues.
So do we have to feel responsible for that? No!
You don’t have to take in the punches and harsh words because you feel
that you might understand what your partner is going through. You will never
understand and you are just putting yourself in danger. Don’t be blind. A
person who really cares for you and love you will never hurt you. A rude and abusive person has no respect for
you. He can’t possibly love someone else
with this attitude. A real man would know your weakness and would not treat you
as a punching bag or a priceless possession. Sometimes when we have power over
men in terms of learning, wealth or career, they take it as defeat or consider
a status of weakness which causes anger turning into violent acts against us.
Abuse causes
damage and death. It leaves wounds and scars that we sometimes hide and deny.
It damages our self-esteem, it corrupts our beliefs of equality and acceptance
and denies us of reality. Though we are physically inferior, we have morals that
make us all different from men. But with abuse we lose that too. Let’s take
back our power. If we show them that we can’t be controlled and manipulated
that would give them the idea that we are not weak, that we can put up a fight.
It should never be our fault if they are like that. But if you allow it to happen
then the blame is on you. People can’t change people. But you can change who
you are and the situation you are in. If you find yourself in an abusive
relationship, get out as early as possible. Seek help. Do not let your feelings
overpower your reason. We are in nature emotional
and sensible. But we have to think of ourselves. Think far ahead. Would you be
happy with a guy who calls you names, intimidates you, threatens you, screams
at you, manipulates you, and beats you? You deserve better. It’s not in our
wish list to be abused. We dream of a lover not a killer. We want to hear
endearments not curses. We want kisses not punches. We deserve respect not
humiliation. We are not just bodies to
give men what they want and satisfy their needs.
Women
defend yourselves. Do not decrease your significance. We are equally powerful
with men. Not superior nor inferiors but
equals. We have our own definition. We work hard for what we want and we know
when to stand up for what we deserve. We display confidence and intellect as
our badge of pride. We recognize our own
self-worth and value by not asserting inherent superiority or
self-entitlement. We are rare. We are amazing. We are women. So if you think
you deserve all these evil, think again. We are women! We have rights. It’s high time that we urge people
to put an end to violence and let it be known to them who we are, let them understand our place and reason for existence.
